Hypocrites in love, by Stepahnie Shaakaa

You kneel to suggest but garbage to kneel successful love.  We person perfected the ceremonial but abandoned the sacrifice.

A antheral who cannot crook his knees for emotion volition 1 time interruption his matrimony with pride.

See ehn, a ringing without a genu is conscionable pridefulness shining connected your finger.

See ehn, if you bring retired a ringing to suggest matrimony to someone’s daughter, you indispensable kneel down. Yes, kneel. Stay connected your knees until you finish. That is the oyibo way. If you bash not privation to kneel, past bash not get their style. Propose the mode your ancestors did. Stop this halfway hypocrisy.

Our procreation is confused. We prime the flashy parts of civilization but driblet the humbling parts. We similar the ring, the roses, the cameras, but erstwhile it comes to bending the knee, pridefulness abruptly takes over. But perceive me, emotion without humility is dangerous. If a antheral cannot kneel down for you erstwhile asking for your hand, however volition helium crook his ego erstwhile existent storms deed the marriage?

Ladies, bash not disregard the signs. That refusal to kneel is not conscionable astir posture, it is astir pride. Pride starts small, successful gestures, earlier it destroys homes. If helium volition not kneel to propose, bash not expect him to kneel to apologize.

And this is not lone astir proposals. It is astir however we unrecorded and love. If you privation to travel oyibo ways, travel them fully. If you privation to grant tradition, bash it properly. But bash not cherry-pick what feeds your ego and discard what humbles you. That is hypocrisy.

Because information is, marriages bash not interruption due to the fact that radical halt loving. They interruption due to the fact that radical halt bending.

If you bring retired a ringing to suggest marriage, you indispensable crook your knees. That is the rule, that is the ritual, that is the civilization you are borrowing. To basal gangly with the ringing successful your manus is to mock the precise contented you assertion to honor. If you bash not privation to kneel, past bash not transcript the Western connection successful the archetypal place. Do it the mode your ancestors did, without ring, without knees, without pretence. But halt playing halfway.

Our procreation has mastered the creation of hypocrisy. We get cultures erstwhile they entreaty to us, past discard the parts that request humility oregon sacrifice. We instrumentality the shiny symbols, the ring, the Instagram-worthy proposal, but we propulsion distant the kneeling that gives it weight. We privation the romance without the ritual, the glam without the grounding. And successful the end, we are neither present nor there, floating successful confusion.

The enactment of kneeling is not trivial. It is not astir knees touching the ground. It is astir humility, reverence, surrender. It is astir saying with your assemblage what your words are promising, that you volition love, honor, and respect the pistillate you are asking to stock your beingness with. The ringing without the kneel is an bare gesture, a hollow performance. To kneel is to admit that emotion requires bending, that pridefulness indispensable beryllium laid aside. If a antheral cannot crook astatine the beginning, what makes you deliberation helium volition crook successful the marriage?

Our ancestors did not kneel with rings, but they had their ain rituals. They came with family, with gifts, with respect. They poured thenar vino and sought the blessing of the bride’s kin. It was ne'er casual, ne'er careless. Every measurement carried meaning. Today, however, we privation the convenience of mixing and matching. We laughter astatine contented portion mangling another. We assertion sophistication, but it is thing much than disorder dressed successful English ways.

Young women indispensable beryllium discerning. A antheral who refuses to kneel portion proposing is sending a message, whether helium knows it oregon not. He is saying, I privation the amusement without the substance. I privation the ...